How to utilize criticism: Five silver tips

[ People often fear and dislike criticism bad comments or insults, but
these things can be used by us in a variety of ways . This article gives
five tips of using such adverse comment to work for you ]

When Rekha joined our college she was very sensitive to criticism, she
would cry and get upset when the slightest insult or criticism was
encountered from her teachers or classmates.

Many of us spend a lot of worrying over things told about us by others.
Many relations are broken because of such unwanted comments. But
criticism is like cow dung. Seen from the proper perspective, it can be
highly useful and some times it can be used as a tool. In this short
exposure five such applications are elaborated.

I Criticism help you retrospect

If somebody tells something bad about your behavior, the first thing that
may come to your mind is rise or dislike. But if you set aside this
emotional barrier and look at the facts, you may find that there is some
element of truth in the comment. In some other classes you may discover
that your actions and words are interpreted in the wrong way. This gives
you an opportunity to modify your behavior or adopt your actions for
better life.

II They can be used as a tool for understanding people

Looking at comment from a different angle, one may deduce the real
intention of the commenter. Sometimes he or she may have some hidden goal
for which he makes the comment. Once I had a friend who used to comment
that I was a miser. I would get emotional and spend money on a treat.
Later I recognized that his aim was precisely that he was spending less
and making others spend by this trick.

III They give you resistance

When she left the course, Rekha could with stand almost anything. What
happened? I wondered. Taking to her I gathered that continuous exposure
to comments has slowly made her bold and resistant to them. Similarly if
you live in a world of attacks, you will develop your personality with
the knowledge of hour to take them. That is you becomes tough. This
tough is one of the necessary conditions to victory.

IV They give you inspiration

If somebody says to me "I am sure that you do not have the ability to do
that " the comment is likely to inspire me to do that . Adverse comments
regarding your inability to do something with boost your sprit and help
you achieve things. In the history these are enough examples of this.
V They show that you are doing something useful

Nobody throws a store at a fruitless tree. So if somebody criticize your
deeds , it means that you are doing something useful. Looking through
this perspectives you may like criticism a bad comments or at least rut
hate them

{This was typed by Mr.Biju K.K ,thanks a lot to him}